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Hands-on, practical activities to build on your child’s EQ strengths and skills.

Social-emotional skills are needed more and more in this ever-evolving, post-pandemic, digital-focused world. Why? Because people with well-developed social-emotional skills have a strong EQ (or emotional intelligence) – read more about this here. These skills provide a foundation of resilience, self-awareness, relationship skills, empathy, impulse control, and more for your child to successfully navigate through life and their future.

 

Luckily, this is something you can help develop in your child from a young age and well into young adulthood. Because no child is born knowing how to deal with their emotions (and few of us adults have mastered the skill either). Incorporating social-emotional learning (SEL) at any stage of your child’s life helps them cope with the emotional and mental challenges of daily life. What’s more, research has found that SEL has a positive effect on academic achievement.

 

Luckily, there are many SEL activities that kids, and teens alike will enjoy while flexing these must-have skills.

 

Social-emotional activities to try at home

 

  1. Practice mindfulness as a family

Staying present and in the moment is a useful skill to call on in high-pressure situations. It also helps to ground you, regulate emotions, and focus on what’s really important in life. Look into doing yoga as a family – there are many tutorials online and many classes available in South Africa’s cities.

 

Breathing techniques are also practical mindfulness tools that reduce anxiety, improve blood flow, and regulate the body and emotions. And you can help even young children master this. Ask your child to lie down on their back and place a teddy bear on their belly. Then ask them to focus on how the bear moves up and down as they breathe in and out – a simple way to encourage belly breathing.

 

For tweens and teens, get them to place one hand on their stomach area and another on their chest. Then they must breathe in for four counts, hold the breath for two counts, and breathe out over six counts. As they do this, they must bring their focus towards connecting with their breathing. They can focus on how the stomach and chest moves as they inhale and exhale.

 

After the breathing exercise, ask them to describe how they are feeling, whether they felt any challenges or changing physical sensations (for example, I had a lump in my throat that eased while I breathed, or I felt how tense my shoulders were because they dropped when I started counting my breaths). The goal is to encourage a body-mind connection, where your child understands how their bodies experience their feelings, and that their emotions are not to be feared.

 

 

  1. Read together

Books are a wonderful way to explore just about anything, and they help illustrate SEL to a child while fostering EQ. Browse your bookstore or e-book platform to find reads that you and your child can enjoy together – encourage your child to speak about what’s happening in the book, to ask questions, and to talk through how they would apply the same scenarios to their lives.

 

There are also great YA books that encourage SEL, so leave one or two on your tween or teen’s nightstand. Maybe give them a read beforehand so that you can chat to your child about the book, the characters, and the story. Kind of like a social-emotional book club.

 

2. Art is expression

Sometimes the best way to work through difficult feelings and situations isn’t to talk them through, but to express them through an art form. Teens are especially reluctant to share problems with their parents, so encourage them to find a way to release stress and anxiety through artistic expression. This could be anything from painting, sculpture, dance, or music. They could even just dance around their room to the favourite song – the goal is to give intense emotions a physical outlet.

 

3. Fill the family’s buckets

Everyone loves a compliment! So, make it a ritual behaviour in your family by creating a ‘bucket’ for each family member (this doesn’t have to be a bucket – use little jars, or special tins, or envelopes, anything that will contain paper notes). Then, each family member needs to add a note of appreciation to these buckets once a week, filling the “buckets” with positivity. This encourages gratitude, compassion and empathy while providing positive recognition for everyone’s efforts and contributions.

 

4. Write a story

This isn’t just any story – it’s a story you write together, as each member of the family (or each sibling, or parent and child) contributes a line to it. Start off by writing a story prompt down, like, “Once upon a time,” or, “Yesterday, something happened.” The first person in the group needs to write down a sentence of the story on the paper, and then pass it to the next person to have them add their sentence. This sequence can go on for a set period, or until the story is finished. However, you don’t read the full story until this point.

 

When the story is read aloud, encourage a discussion on it. Ask the writers what the best part of the story was, what the saddest or scariest part was, and how the story made you feel. This exercise gets everyone working towards a common goal and taking joy in working as a team.

 

5. Start a gratitude journal

Tweens and teens appreciate having their own special secrets, and a journal is a good place for them to express their thoughts and feelings. Encourage your child to decorate a journal or book that you provide in any way they want – give them the stickers, pens, khokis, or materials they’ll need to make it their own.

 

Then encourage your child to make a habit of writing in this journal every day. Of course, they can comment on issues or difficulties they’re facing, but the absolute one requirement they have to do is write down one thing that they are grateful for every day. This usually starts with, “I got an A on my science test,” or, “I’m so grateful I have my phone,” but soon moves on to discovering a deeper and more nuanced appreciation of their lives and experiences.

 

Journaling has also been proven to improve communication skills, reduce stress and anxiety, and keeps track of goals as they can reflect on their progress and growth over a period of time.

03 May, 2024
Change Artist School : Crawford International Sandton Year : 1997 Deborah Weber, an alumna of Crawford International Sandton, is an inspiration in the realm of contemporary art. Known for her collaborative art projects and installations, her creativity not only calls for social justice, but it also transcends boundaries, ignites conversations, and drives change. How did Crawford International influence your journey as an artist, and advocate for social justice? My formative years at Crawford International Sandton were instrumental in shaping my perspective on the world. The school's commitment to fostering critical thinking and nurturing individuality and creativity provided me with a platform to explore complex issues. There were always engaging discussions, mentorship from inspiring teachers, and exposure to new ways of thinking. This all led to creative expression. When did you decide that art would be your career choice? Discovering my passion for art and drama at Crawford, I decided then to pursue a career in the arts. After school I enrolled at the University of Cape Town, where I completed my master’s in fine arts. Your art often tackles pressing social issues. How do you approach the intersection of art and social justice in your work? For me, art serves as a powerful medium to challenge systemic injustices, provoke meaningful dialogue and catalyse change. As a young artist I focussed on performance and video installation, and over the past decade I’ve been working in collaboration with groups of artists on projects that shed light on important issues, such as: social injustice, land restitution, gender-based violence, and environmental degradation. The works ask viewers to confront uncomfortable truths and to ask difficult questions. Our projects have been exhibited at Museums across the country and internationally! What advice would you give your 17-year-old self? If I could go back, I’d tell my younger self to trust in her own voice and not be afraid to fail. It's easy to feel uncertain about the future but true fulfilment comes from staying true to yourself and following your passions. I would encourage her to cultivate resilience and to try working in different mediums. She must experiment and play! Can you tell us about your latest artistic project and series? During the isolation imposed by Covid, I had to turn inward and focus on my own solo artistic practice. My current body of work emerged from that introspection, and I now have a more individual approach to connecting with viewers and their emotions. In this approach, the methods of automatism and automatic drawing became an important mechanism for me, and I have explored new mediums of painting and ceramics in this regard. What messages do you hope to convey through this body of work? I want to explore the emotional potential held by art which enables the viewer to access states of being in the unconscious mind. The “feeling individual” is never an island, but is always part of a larger community. My work aims to gives shape to emotional states, either in response to events in the wider social or political environment or from a deeply personal inner world. In this body of work the viewer becomes the interlocutor between the unconscious; a world of meaning and own emotion. The works are mostly playful, sometimes menacing, irreverent, vibrant or perplexing, but all ask the viewer to experience the power of their own emotional responses to the works. Who are you, outside the fine lines of artistry? I enjoy spending time with loved ones, that includes my amazing husband, son and family. We love to spend time in nature and travel and hiking are our favourite past times. I believe in living a life guided by compassion and curiosity, both in my work and in my everyday interactions. What’s next for you as an artist? I’ve recently had an exhibition of paintings and ceramics called ‘Field of Possibility” in Cape Town. Also, our collaborative project (on gender based violence) with the Keiskamma Art Project called Ubumbano/Unite was held at the Nelson Mandela Art Museum. As an artist, I'm constantly evolving and exploring new avenues for creative expression and activism. Moving forward, I will continue creating work that explores the emotional potentiality between the artist, the artwork and the viewer. I will also continue to evolve my painting and ceramic practice. Last word of motivation for future generation of Crawfordians? Embrace curiosity, diversity, and kindness. Challenge norms, lead with empathy, and don’t be afraid to fail - failure means you have tried something new and can teach us more about ourselves. Use your education to create positive change. Dream big, act boldly, and shape a future where compassion reigns. The world awaits your extraordinary gifts. More information on the artist: Website: www.deborahweberart.com Instagram: @deborahweberart
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In a recent Crawford International blog, we delved into the topic of temperament in children. We described ‘temperament’ as a person’s inner nature, which affects their overall behaviour. We also explained that temperament makes up only part of a person’s larger personality and we identified the four different types of temperament, including: phlegmatic, melancholic, choleric and sanguine. In that blog, we focussed on the characteristics of the high performing Choleric Child. Click here to read our blog called, Choleric Children: Diving into the dominant personality. This blog is the second instalment in the temperament series and focuses on the Sanguine child aka Little Miss or Mr Social. Outline of the sanguine temperament The sanguine child is the most social of all the temperaments. They are not only a ray of sunshine in any room, but they are also the main source of fun in any social situation. Sanguine children are often the social glue that binds different personalities. They are usually popular and have many friends, spanning different social groups. Sanguine children are also extremely observant. They notice small details of other people. “Are those new earrings Auntie Claire?,” or “It looks like you are limping, did you hurt yourself?” are typical statements to come out of a sanguine child. They have a way of making everyone they come across feel seen and important, and it’s because of this that they are so well-liked. Core traits of a sanguine child Confident Optimistic Talkative Extroverted Influential Inspirational Creative Fun Poor concentration Impulsive Disorganised Tips on how to support a sanguine child Because the sanguine child is so much fun to be around, they tend to get away with a lot. Their yearning for adventure often means they find it hard to knuckle down and do their work. They often neglect to plan and find it hard to concentrate. When things don’t go their way, they will charm you with their personalities and “help” you forget their flaws. They are known as the “charming child”. Here are some tips on how to support a sanguine child: Parents and teachers need to offer the sanguine child structure and routine – which they initially battle to put together themselves. The more simple the routine, the easier a sanguine child will stick to it. You will however need to monitor their progress and encourage consistency. This will help them organise their work and their lessons better, which will ultimately aid in better results. Going hand in hand with the structure and routine support, comes outlining clear expectations for your sanguine child. Setting rules and boundaries for them, and being consistent with your discipline, will help them to be more disciplined in their own work. They will then develop self-control and will therefore attain their goals. Parents and teachers need to allow the sanguine child to be creative . Give them opportunities to lead in areas of visual arts and music. Allow them to create lesson plans for the class, or to lead a section or topic, encouraging them to make it fun for the class. This is what they are good at, and they will be learning as they go. Compartmentalise larger tasks! Sanguine children get distracted easily and lose concentration quickly. If you break large projects into smaller tasks then it will make it easier for the sanguine child to tackle the work. Sanguine children like fun . So, make it fun! At Crawford International we pride ourselves on offering other ways of learning. Using games, visual aids, songs, re-enactments and even practical tasks to share knowledge. Sanguine children love praise – especially in front of their peers. Giving positive reinforcement will build you child’s confidence, and this will flow to their peers. Sanguine children always use their positivity to build others up around them. In conclusion, sanguine children are a joy to teach and to parent. Remember to have a little patience, understanding and creativity, and your sanguine child will thrive and they will absolutely reach their full potential.
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How To Reduce Exam Stress Through Revision Did you know that studying and revision are two different things? In a nutshell, ‘studying’ refers to the initial exposure a student has to the course material. This happens in the classroom or by reading the textbook. Revision, however, is what happens after the initial study happens and relates to strategies or techniques used to visit and revisit the course material at consistent intervals, in order to gain a deeper understanding and easier recall. The 2,3,5,7 revision method This method refers to the intervals at which revision is done, after the initial learning has taken place. Day 2 and day 3 are revision days of the learning achieved on Day 1. Day 4 is a rest day, while Day 5 you re-visit the work. Day 6 is another rest day, and finally Day 7 is your last re-visit opportunity before you write your exam. These revision sessions should not take more than 45 minutes, with a 15-minute break. Planning your revision will ensure that you get what you need done, instead of ‘wandering’ about the content aimlessly. You can use various revision strategies to help you learn the course material in different ways. What are some revision strategies? Did you know there is ‘Active’ revision and ‘Passive’ revision? Passive revision is simply reading the course material, typing out neat notes, and highlighting sentences. This is very simplistic and not enough to get the information into your memory. Active revision, on the other hand, is a more energetic approach and uses different methods to learn and understand the content. Here are some handy revision methods: In the Past: Past papers are a fantastic way to simulate an actual exam while testing your knowledge of the coursework. First, do the test as if it’s a live exam. Then test your answers against your own notes. Once you are sure of your answers, mark yourself against the memo. On the cards: Flash cards (and colourful sticky notes) are great for active revision because you have to take the comprehensive information and condense it into a single card or note. This requires understanding of the work. Comfort in numbers: Grab some friends and create a pop-up study group. Not only will others keep you motivated, but they will also be your sounding board as you teach them concepts (without your notes) and they can also act as a guide if you are stuck on some material. Rap it: The same way song words stick in your head, if you add a melody or a rhyme to information, you will remember the facts more easily. For instance: ‘Wishy-washy on his own, signed it was a whale bone’. A silly rhyme to remember that George Washington, signed the Treaty of Independence in Nantucket (home of the whale) – for example. Rest it: You simply cannot revise all the time! It’s exhausting and unproductive. Build some flexibility into your revision plan because self-care is important to learning. Sleep, eat, revise, play and repeat. Setup a Revision Timetable So now you know what you need to do, create a timetable to manage your revision slots. Start with a blank month page and add the following to your timetable: Fixed activities. This includes school time, sport practices and matches, family commitments , etc. Flexibles activities. This includes exercise, chores, socialising, meal times and games. Hot hours. Analyse when you work best, such as in the morning or the night. Steal open hours this time because that’s when you’ll get the best quality revision done. Exam Dates. Once you’ve added your assessment dates, work backwards from those dates to make sure you have enough revision time. How much time is enough time? Remember our 2,3,5,7 method above, featuring 45 minute slots with a 15 minute break? Apply that method as best you can and soon it will become clear if you have enough time or not. Tricky first. For each of your subjects, write down the main topics or sections. Now rate how confident you are in those topics. The topics you are least confident in should be the ones you tackle first, practise longest, and the ones you re-visit most often. Now that you have some sort of structure to your revision, start today! That one hour you would’ve spent lying in the bath watching reels can now be spent revising one section for 45 minutes, and then you can lie in the bath for the remaining 15 minutes. Take responsibility and plan well. Crawford International students please know this: we understand that exam time can be stressful. We believe that if you simply revise your work (as stated above), then you will alleviate your exam anxiety. Remember too that we are all here to help you if you are struggling. All you have to do is ask.
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Choleric Children: Diving Into The Dominant Personality Have you ever heard anyone say, “He has such a lovely temperament” or, “She can be very temperamental?” Have you ever wondered what that really means? The dictionary will tell you that temperament is a person’s nature or consistent behaviour. The important thing to remember, however, is that temperament makes up only part of a person’s larger personality. At Crawford International, we are aware that all children have different personality types and different temperaments, and we strive to teach all of them in the way that they will learn best, a personalised learning journey. There are four identified temperaments. They are: phlegmatic, melancholic, sanguine, and choleric. A phlegmatic temperament is one found in an easy-going child, They are usually very relaxed, contemplative, and often shy. The phlegmatic child is a peace-loving soul who would rather be left to their own devices than to be stirred into action. A melancholic child is a deep thinker and a sensitive soul. They are extremely averse to risk and challenge and rather look at a situation with compassion and understanding. The sanguine temperament is the most social and happy of all the temperaments. They are energised by change and spur-of-the-moment decisions. They are usually positive people and like to talk, and talk, and talk. A breakdown of the Choleric Child: The final temperament, and the focus of our blog today, is the choleric child: Outline of the Choleric Temperament The choleric child can be described as the ‘hero’ child. They are highly motivated, results-driven people who always want to win. They have intense interests in many different things and always achieve well in whatever they do. They are ambitious and will take on projects, sports, and activities with lots of energy, often dominating other kids in the process. They are born leaders, but sometimes they can be so focused on results that they overlook feelings and may lack compassion. Traits of a choleric child Confident and assertive Self-motivated Energetic Decisive Goal orientated Can be quick-tempered and often irritable May have control issues. Tips on how to support a choleric child The choleric child is not a walk in the park, but they are certainly a fun ride and a constant source of pride for parents. They have big personalities and they need “big” parenting and positive reinforcement in all teaching. Here are some tips on how to support a choleric child: Choleric children are often so driven, that when they don’t win they have a tendency to take it very hard. Parents and teachers need to offer positive verbal cues and an analytical situation assessment, which will help them to see the bigger picture and to recognise that lessons learned are often the real ‘win’. Choleric children are outspoken and say whatever comes to mind. They do this because they are analytical, not emotional, and can sometimes be out of touch with other people’s feelings. Here, parents and teachers need to slow the choleric child down and to encourage them to think before they speak and to consider the perspective and feelings of others. Choleric children have an innate need to control and often dominate situations. While this leads to natural leadership roles, at other times this can be overbearing to other children. Parents and teachers must acknowledge the choleric child’s need for control and allocate “important” tasks to them that they can self-manage. A choleric child will have a strong desire to try new things and will make it their mission to conquer those things. Parents and teachers, don’t stand in their way! Get behind them with the tools, lessons, books, and people, who will be able to give them the best shot at achieving. A choleric child has a need for independence. They want to do it on their own because they want you to be proud of them when it’s done. Parents and teachers, you need to offer the choleric child trust. Nobody wants their child to burn themselves with fire, but if you teach a choleric child to build a fire properly, then step back and allow them to do it – they will surprise you with how well it will be done. Choleric children can often become frustrated because things are not moving as fast as they need them to or because they are not in control of the situation. This can cause conflict with their peers, parents, and teachers alike. Parents and teachers be patient. Allow the choleric child the time to cool down, then discuss the matter with them in a mature, quiet, and caring way.
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